As the first issue of a magazine about our sexual culture, it seems only natural to take time to understand the differences between fantasy and reality. Reality in our social environment teases our minds with productions of overwhelming fantasy while we are also bombarded by sexual insinuations for the latest and greatest dishwashing liquid, washing machine, coffee… (Just fill in the blank here). At the same time media is pounding flesh into our minds, it also tells us to hide our fantasies, often in shame. There are consequences to being a happy sexually fulfilled individual, it can come with social disdain, name calling and a societal belief that you should feel shame for… well, being human. After all, everyone has fantasies.

What woman hasn't walked by that stirred your imagination? What man looked at you and caused chills down your spine, with just a glance? Did you allow these thoughts to flow and continue as your imagination played forth? Or did you stop yourself suddenly? Fantasies enflame the unconscious thoughts of everyone, on an equal basis. Men, women, gay, straight, we all have them no matter our sexual orientations. Society often plays a role in repression of our sexual psyche and essence by enforcing sexual roles and norms, community and religious values, societal condemnations, and other methods of sexual ignorance. In society you find all types of political and religious moralists spending countless hours trying to prevent Alice from falling down the rabbit hole.

Why? Is it because she might enjoy it? Could she have a passing thought about the mechanic fixing her car? Maybe one could believe these thoughts could lead to obsessions for devotional surrender. Or is it the ritualized form of power pulsating through the veins by unspoken desires of the heart and mind? Whatever these thoughts may be, why the fear?

We must learn to recognize that pleasure is a need, not a right, and can be expressed in many diverse ways. Fantasies are a personal freedom of the mind that allows for exploration and encourages passion in relationships. Maybe we should not challenge the concept of whose fantasies are wrong or right, perhaps we should simply challenge the concept of “Normal” sex

Maybe if men and women alike overcame their ambivalence by exploring their fantasies and the passions they can bring about in their lives, there could be less negativity and more respect, love, and passion between the sexes. The world always needs more respect, love and passion.


Lenore T. Rose
Editor-in-Chief

 

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