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Honey Pie
1 cup honey
3 large eggs, beaten
3 tablespoons butter
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 cup chopped pecans
1/8 teaspoon ground nutmeg
1 (9-inch) unbaked pie shell
In a simmering saucepan, bring honey to a boil. Quickly beat eggs into the honey; add butter, vanilla, chopped pecans, and nutmeg. Pour into a 9-inch unbaked pie shell. Bake at 325°F (160°C) for 25 minutes, or until the center is set. Makes 8 servings
Cuddle-Up Carrot Cake
6 cups grated carrots
1 cup brown sugar
1 cup raisins
4 eggs
1 1/2 cups white sugar
1 cup vegetable oil
2 teaspoons vanilla extract

1 cup crushed pineapple, drained
3 cups all-purpose flour
1 1/2 teaspoons baking soda
1 teaspoon salt
4 teaspoons ground cinnamon
1 cup chopped walnuts
In a medium bowl, combine grated carrots and brown sugar. Set aside for 60 minutes, then stir in raisins. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease and flour two 10 inch cake pans. In a large bowl, beat eggs until light. Gradually beat in the white sugar, oil and vanilla. Stir in the pineapple. Combine the flour, baking soda, salt and cinnamon, stir into the wet mixture until absorbed. Finally stir in the carrot mixture and the walnuts. Pour evenly into the prepared pans. Bake for 45 to 50 minutes in the preheated oven, until cake tests done with a toothpick. Cool for 10 minutes before removing from pan. When completely cooled, frost with cream cheese frosting.
Hot Toddy
1 oz. brandy, whiskey or rum
1 Tbsp honey
1/4 lemon
1 cup hot water
1 tea bag
Generously coat the bottom of a mug or a coffee glass with honey. Add the liquor, and the juice of the lemon quarter. On the side, heat water in a tea kettle and add the tea bag to make hot tea. Pour the steaming tea into the glass and stir.
 

omeone asked me on a private basis recently what it was I looked for in a submissive. I think that's a valid question, and a common one coming from a novice. I'm going to answer it on a more public and fairly general basis. I think, by and large, that most dominants look for primarily the same things. This is, however, more about male submissives than about females, I think. The first thing I look for is both intelligence and humor. I like smart people, I like funny people. I look for precisely the same things in any people I find I like. The person on my arm is a reflection of me. I want that reflection to be bright and shiny.

I look for a certain self-knowledge and self-analysis. I want a submissive to understand themselves and understand what they're looking for. I want the submissive to have given this a great deal of thought. I don't want to waste my time with someone who is pursuing this on a momentary whim and will disappear the first time it becomes difficult. This ISN'T an easy lifestyle, and someone who hasn't considered this adequately won't understand that, will bail the first time they figure that out. At best, I'll have wasted my time and theirs, at worst our hearts will be a bit more tender for the experience, and neither are worth it.

When talk turns to limits, I don't want them to have absolutely none, or list 33 things they won't do, ending with children and animals. Of course my activities don't include children or animals, to do otherwise would be both non-consensual and insane. To have them mentioned is always disconcerting to me, as if they thought I might bring them up. Neither an animal nor a child is able to offer informed consent; therefore activities involving either of them are inappropriate at best. I always think that they'll next add that they also consider robbing gas stations to be a limit.

On the other hand, if you haven't got any limits, you've not thought about this enough, because I guarantee that there are things you would not do, whoever you are, whatever those things are. If, instead, you have long laundry lists of limits, perhaps this isn't the lifestyle for you. I've had novice submissives tell me that their limits were absolutely no pain, absolutely no bondage, absolutely nothing at all in a public setting where

anyone else might ever know that they were submissive, and that, in return for this carte blanche, they would be willing to "help out" with the housework. Oh, and I could, if we lived far enough apart, have other relationships. It doesn't work that way. You should know your limits, but if you're unwilling to explore any of the darker sides of this dynamic, perhaps this is a poor choice for you.

Have an understanding of what you're looking for before you start your search. You're more likely to find it. Know how often you want to see someone, what you would be willing to do - would you relocate, for instance? Do you want a complete power exchange, where you become chattel without rights, or do you just want to spank each other during sex every once in a while. Both are acceptable and you'll likely find someone who is compatible regardless, but not if you can't say what it is you're looking for.

I want them to know what interests them, and when I ask for interests, I don't want a lengthy list of all the things they want done to them. It's fine to say that you love to give foot massages or that you want to be trained as a sissy maid, or that you'd like to know more about pony play. But if all you can talk about is what you want me to do to you, you will lose my interest quickly. Bear in mind, too, that sometimes when I ask about interests, in mind, too, that sometimes when I ask about interests, I mean, do you like to travel, do you like to read, what kinds of movies do you like, etc. It's not always about sex. Often, it's not about sex at all. >>

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